"Emotions become problematic only when you identify with them, when you get lost or stuck in them, when you privilege certain emotions and try to deny others. The Tantric attitude toward emotions—acceptance, openness to feeling, combined with the awareness of being a spectator—is really a quality of heart. It takes a certain receptivity and softness."
- "Essence of Life" Sally Kempton
"He / she lets their emotions rule them." We've all heard it before and most of us have definitely played the emotional roller coaster game in our own lives. Allowing ourselves to truly experience and comprehend our emotions (I'm talking about both the beautiful ones and the ones riddled with pain and heartache) is worlds apart from allowing ourselves to become over run, reactive and ultimately in a sense of unmanageable awe as to what's actually occurring in our lives.
Pain hurts. It's raw, it's tough, it's scary and most of us spend much of our precious time & effort attempting to avoid it at all costs. Understandable, no one wakes up inviting pain into their world with massive open arms but pain is also inevitable, as is beauty, as is love, as is grief, as is loss. "Clinging" to the idea that one of these concepts can exist without the others closely in tow is not only setting us up for lives burdened with worry, eternal disappointment, self pity and suffering, it's also hugely limiting in the scope of the "true human experience."
When we allow ourselves to feel emotions wholly and fully, as they are intended, we grow to appreciate polarity. We learn to find the most pleasurable emotions hidden within the darkest ones. We understand "happiness" because we truly know "devastation." So perhaps we strive to find beauty in each and every one of our emotions, in the opportunities for growth they offer and their unique abilities to enrich our lives. Perhaps we learn to find gratitude for this gamut of emotional gifts we are given, maybe we truly learn to teach ourselves to "dance in the rain."